As the 85-and-older population booms, elderly parents who insist on keeping their guns are increasingly a concern for their young adult children. Children are afraid their aging parents will commit suicide, or shoot someone by mistake in a moment of anger or confusion.
The New Old Age blog at The New York Times explores this issue:
She is a 90-year-old widow with mild Alzheimer’s disease, and her son is begging her, for safety’s sake, to give up something she considers essential to her independence and sense of control.
“You can’t take it away from me,” she told him recently. “It’s all I’ve got.”
This may sound like a classic confrontation with an elderly mother who won’t give up her car. But it’s in fact about a loaded .38-caliber handgun that she keeps wrapped in a scarf in her top dresser drawer in a Southern California retirement community.
According to the National Firearms Survey of 2004, more than a quarter of people 65 and older own guns. In 2004, the Veterans Health Administration found that 40 percent of veterans with mild to moderate dementia had a gun in their home.
Few laws enable children to take guns away from parents. Only 11 states require a license to buy a gun. And although the federal Brady Act bars gun sales to those who are judged mentally “defective,” children are reluctant to go through the legal process required to declare their parents unfit for gun ownership. Parents have also reported their children to the police for removing a gun from their home.
While there are few documented cases of elderly gun owners shooting relatives, older white males have the highest suicide rate in the U.S., and 71 percent used a gun, according to a 2003 American Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry study. Some home health agencies demand that clients remove guns from their homes before sending aides in, while others limit the policy to those with dementia.
In response to an inquiry from The Times, the National Rifle Association said it sponsors courses to “teach gun owners the importance of storing guns so they are never accessible to untrained or unauthorized individuals.”

